7 SIGNS IT'S LUST AND NOT LOVE.

A relationship based on lust is great if you know what you are
getting yourself into and do it with your eyes wide open, for a
good romp in the hay. But what’s important is that you don’t
delude yourself. Here are 7 signs that what you share is lust,
and not love.
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1. You’re dressed to impress

You are always looking your best with them. You eyebrows are
waxed, you are invariably dressed to advantage, and your
Brazilian is immaculate. Whether you’re a man or a woman, the
point is that you take particular care in your appearance each
time you meet them. In a relationship that is based on more
than just the superficial, you and your partner wouldn’t care if
your hair wasn’t perfect some day because your relationship is
much more than all that lies outside.

2. A dearth of meaningful conversations
“Love is friendship that has caught on fire. It is quiet
understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving.
It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for
less than perfection and makes allowances for human
weaknesses.”
-Ann Landers
When you’re in love, and I mean well and truly in love, you are
comfortable with your partner and all that they are. Which
means you are also comfortable talking about most things with
them. Your partner is your friend, unlike lust, in which case
friendship and the meaningful conversations that come with it
are lacking. Conversations making up your problems, your
hopes, your dreams, and your life in general are missing from
your interactions.
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3. They look like sin

In a relationship based on lust alone, your partner most likely
appears to be a version of Adonis/Aphrodite. And you’re oft left
thinking that nature has bestowed an inordinate amount of
beauty on this individual. You cannot stop thinking of their looks
and believe them to be perfect, when the reality is that they are
far from it. In love, you see past a person’s imperfections to
the beauty and kindness within. There is passion, but it isn’t
based solely on their looks, rather it is derived from the love
you two share.

4. Your time is spent tumbling

This, I draw purely from experience. Although I do not lay claim
to it being unique to me and my former situation. Feel free to
relate to it. So, you decide to watch a movie together. But
instead of opting for one that is playing at your nearest
cinemas, you choose to watch an oldie at his/her place.
Sounds cute and somewhat romantic right? Sure, if you do end
up watching the entire movie. And that is because in reality, you
could care less about the movie and spend the greater portion
of the time hitting the home run. And that is just what happens
when your relationship is based on lust, and not love.
You spend virtually all your time with each other having sex.
Indeed, sex is a wonderful way to express your feelings for one
another, but it shouldn’t be the only one.

5. You don’t connect on an emotional level
Your communication is stunted. You don’t identify your feelings
or discuss them, and neither does he/she. You don’t lead to
discussions pertaining to how he/she makes you feel or vice
versa. Frankly, feelings don’t come into it, unless they are about
sex.
When you connect with someone on an emotional level, you
draw comfort from silence. You aren’t bothered by lying on your
sides and gazing into each other’s eyes till 4 in the morning
(oh, trust me, it’s quite the novelty at the outset of love). But
the fact that silences are awkward, and your communication is
based solely on sex and which bit you enjoyed most should be
a neon sign screaming it’s pure lust.

6. Your memories are associated with the bedroom alone

Each time you think of the moments you’ve spent with him/her,
you don’t think of the movie you watched or the meal you
shared, or the walks you took. Instead your thoughts are
instantly routed towards all the titillating moments you spent in
each other’s company…only. And those memories alone stand
out in your mind each time you think of him/her.

7. No plans for the future

You speak of how good it is. How much you want each other.
Of your desire for the other one. What you want out of your
next ‘date’. But one thing you haven’t imagined doing is
spending a lifetime with them. If the thought of marriage,
children, join accounts, shared sleepless nights changing
diapers, vacations taken together amongst several others of a
similar nature come to your mind over time when you think of
them, then you can be assured that this is perhaps more than
just pure lust. But if the future never comes into it, ever, then
the nature of your relationship need not be spelt out for you.