FEELINGS, LOVE AND MARRIAGE..

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Feeling is part of love, I won't encourage you to marry someone
you have no single feelings for. I thought about Adewunmi all day,
all night till I ask God, "I'm tired of thinking about this gentle lamb
all morning, all night without knowing exactly where the
relationship is heading. Is he the one?"
I was in love with this guy and had that soft, warm, pure, electric,
sweet sensation (not lustful) feelings for him. I prayed about it,
God said, "Baby, that's your husband". The day he came to
propose, I saw angels and stars, I went to heaven, came back
and said a big, fat, " Yes!"
I still have that soft, warm, tender feelings for him but not all the
time like we were courting. You know why? I now see his
weaknesses full scale! I sleep with him and see him daily! I get
under pressure at times and my temper would flare! He would do
things that get me angry and all tender, loving FEELINGS would
fly right out of the window! If my marriage is based on feelings,
then the marriage would have been over because feelings are
over!
Everyone has weaknesses and weaknesses are not pleasant dear.
They can be so annoying, irritating and drives one crazy! We all
face pressure! Financial, emotional, spiritual, societal, etc pressure
can make you or your spouse act nasty. This is where you need
strength, additional energy to love your spouse when you don't in
the world feel anything!
The quickest and best way to draw strength is the word of God. I
like consuming 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 when I am misbehaving and
need to get in order! When I feel disrespectful, I sit down with
2nd Peter 3, read and digest till I am strengthened to respect
and honour my dear husband again.
Hubby has always been the cool, loving, sweet guy. I am the ball
of fire, charismatic, hot, on-the-go, no nonsense one here! So I
think I need God more, study the word more and show
commitment more. My husband is a committed, super loving
husband, any day, any time! I owe the secret of my happy
marriage to God and to him!
So darling, feelings can be so sweet. I still have that sweet
feeling for Dewunmi. That romantic feelings is so cool. I like
making love to my husband, I don't ever get tired of doing that in
almost a decade marriage. I still love the way he walks. I like his
height. I like his skin colour and texture. I like his flat tummy. I
like every part of him. I still feel the "waves" when he hugs me.
These feelings will never go, they are put there by God and will
be there forever.
But we are human. We face pressure. We have weaknesses we
work on daily. We face challenges. We go through life's battles.
During this period, feelings will go, the word of God in you is what
will keep you acting right, honoring your spouse, loving them and
being nice and romantic till you get your feelings back.
The ability to act right to your spouse when you don't feel like is
called commitment in marriage and that is where maturity comes
in. When you are mature and ripe for marriage, you will act eight
to your spouse regardless of the feelings.
Marriage is so sweet when you marry right. It is bliss, super rosy,
heaven on earth! May you not miss your soul mate! Thanks for
reading. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2019.

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